I Have AuDHD — Here Are 16 Stocking Stuffers Your Neurodivergent Friend Might Actually Want This Holiday Season

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Nothing pains me more than being expected to fake a smile when I receive a gift I know I’ll never use — probably because, unsurprisingly, I am terrible at faking emotions. As someone with autism and ADHD, my emotions are usually written all over my face, so it’s hard for me to hide if I’m disappointed. And that’s why so many of my friends say I’m hard to shop for.

But I’m not the only one with these kinds of struggles, especially this time of year. Many neurodivergent people — aka people whose communication, emotions, behaviors, or learning is different from what’s considered “the norm,” like people with conditions such as ADHD, autism, OCD, and PTSD, just to name a few — can have increased difficulty hiding their genuine reactions. Yet they often experience enormous pressure to do so, resulting in suppressing efforts called masking.

 This can lead to us feeling as though no one knows our real selves, as we spend so much time trying to fit in. But on the other hand, when someone really does take the time to understand what we enjoy and what makes us feel supported, it can be incredibly meaningful.

That’s why this holiday season, we’re here to help. Using my personal experience — and my experience shopping for many of my neurodivergent friends — I’ve compiled this list of stocking stuffer gifts that your neurodivergent loved ones might like. These include a range of soothing or calming items, energizing items, functional items, and connective items, so that hopefully, even though “neurodivergent” is a broad term that applies to a wide variety of people with different needs and preferences, you can maybe find something that’s a good fit.

Soothing Gift Ideas

Some types of neurodivergence can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed. For example, people with OCD often experience high levels of anxiety, while people with autism are more likely to be sensitive to sensory inputs from their environment, like loud sounds and strong smells.

Soothing gifts can be a gentle way to encourage your loved one to take time to decompress. Gifts that engage the senses, when not being too overpowering, can also help shift attention away from distressing experiences and toward something more uplifting, like what we see when people with PTSD engage with fidgets.

 This section includes just a few of my favorites in this category.

Green Tea Linen Mist by DRMTLGY

$15 at Amazon
While some people think it’s best to avoid scented gifts altogether, I know many neurodivergent folks who do, in fact, enjoy things that smell nice, as long as it’s not overpowering — which is why I like this linen spray. Rather than burning a candle that fills the entire room, a spray like this one can be applied directly to a pillow, shirt, or towel. So when your loved one wants to enjoy the scent, they can, but if it gets to be a bit much, they can easily set the item aside or toss it in the washing machine after airing it out. This spray in particular has a more mellow and calming green tea scent, too.

Cherosin Fidget Puzzle Cube

$9.99 at Amazon
Ignore the fact that it’s labeled “for men” — this six-sided puzzle cube is a great fidget for folks of all genders. What I love about this particular fidget is that each side is a different puzzle, so if one type of puzzle feels frustrating or tedious, you can simply turn the cube over for another option. This helps ensure the fidget is actually calming, as it positively redirects focus, instead of becoming an unsolvable annoyance that feels more tedious than supportive.

Sensorial Activity Board by Pushpeel

$22.99 at Amazon
$24.99Now 8% Off
When I saw this for the first time, I became a little obsessed with it. This tactile board includes bendy, long, colorful silicone pieces that can be fitted into a wavy, slotted board in seemingly endless combinations. It’s great for kids and adults, and comes with a travel pouch that makes it portable, too.

Restology Labs Adjustable Compression Mask

$19.90 at Amazon
$24.99Now 20% Off
This is an under-the-radar gift because it’s not just for headaches! For those of us who immediately tense our jaw and scrunch our face when stressed, heating this mask up in the microwave can have a soothing effect.

 Placing it in the freezer can be another option for folks who prefer to chill out, with the option of applying to your neck like a wearable icepack, which can stimulate the vagus nerve for a deeper calm.

 The mask also uses tangle-free velcro, so you can choose the amount of compression you want, and it won’t get tangled up in your hair. Pro tip: Combine this with the green tea linen spray for an enhanced experience.

Ono Roller Fidget

$28 at Amazon
$32Now 13% Off
I know, another fidget. But listen, this one is worth including. I love a versatile fidget that can be used in multiple ways, and this one is exactly that. You can roll it around in one hand, roll it between both palms, roll it against a surface, or even use it to massage your skin. I often self-soothe by moving my hands up and down my thighs, so finding this fidget was very exciting for me, as I’m able to use it the same way, which makes it comforting and fun.

Energizing Gifts

While some neurodivergent folks tend toward the more overstimulated end of the spectrum, others benefit from having more stimulation. For example, people with ADHD often see meaningful cognitive benefits when they’re engaged with rewarding activities, and folks with depression, who may experience stronger disinterest and apathy, can benefit from low-effort activities that keep them engaged.

Basic Fun Lite Brite Touch Mini

$47.99 at Amazon
You might not remember Lite Brites, but I had one growing up, and let me tell you — it was lit. Fast forward to today: I’m always looking for fun toys that encourage me to play without keeping me tethered to my phone.

While this Lite Brite is reminiscent of the quaint, peg-based original, it now features buttons and a touch screen, which allows you to create animations, play multiplayer games, and transport it without all the tiny pieces.

Fujifilm Instax Mini 12 Camera Bundle

$119.99 at Amazon
For years, my therapist was telling me that I needed to find a hobby — and for good reason, as hobbies have been associated with improved mood and greater life satisfaction. And they can be especially beneficial for autistic folks.

 That said, I hate the learning curve involved in most creative hobbies. Enter: the Fujifilm Instax camera. It allows you to dabble in film photography without the effort of developing the film — there’s the near-immediate gratification when the physical photo pops out after taking it. Buy it for the artsy friend who can’t be bothered to develop their photos — or for yourself.

Premium Mystery Dice Set by 1985 Games

$19.99 at Amazon
Many neurodivergent people struggle with “decision fatigue” (where a multitude of options can make decision-making difficult, if not impossible) or “task paralysis” (where getting started on a complex task or project can result in freezing or shutting down).

 One great coping skill for this is using numbers — more specifically, making a numbered list of your options for decision-making or a to-do list, and letting the dice instruct you on where to begin rather than getting stuck on your own. Bonus, this is a mystery pack, so there’s the novelty of not knowing exactly what’s inside.

Lego Playset for a Beloved Franchise (Like Animal Crossing!)

$16.99 at Amazon
$19.99Now 15% Off

Not knowing who you’re buying a gift for, I can’t exactly say which Lego set would be best. But a small Lego set based on a video game, animal, or other interest your loved one has can be a fun option for the person in your life who would cherish any collectible related to their favorite thing. I’ve included this Animal Crossing mini-set, because it’s what I happen to be obsessed with, and because it’s a popular example of the kind of Lego set I’m talking about.

Functional Gifts for Practical Support

Depending on the person, being neurodivergent can come with its own unique challenges. This can include struggles with memory, concentration, time and task management, and intrinsic motivation (so, being able to self-motivate).

 That doesn’t inherently mean that the person is bad or deficient — it may just mean they need specific accommodations and support to live the life they want to be living. This section offers more practical gifts that address some of these specific challenges.

Sprinkler Key Hider by Lucky Line

$6.68 at Amazon

No matter how hard she tried, my ex with ADHD regularly locked herself out of her apartment, forcing her to climb through windows, body-slam doors, and frantically phone our neighbors and friends. I guess I should have gotten her this gift, which may look like an ordinary sprinkler head, but it’s actually a waterproof container that can discreetly hide a house key! This gift isn’t for everyone, but for that person, it can be a real lifesaver.

Loop Earplugs Everyday Bundle

$55.90 at Amazon
While the current research largely focuses on kids with autism, it’s not a stretch to imagine that a pair of nice earplugs can be a major relief when you’re someone who struggles with loud sounds, overall volume, or specific triggering noises (like with misophonia).

 That said, not all earplugs are made equally, which is why this bundle from Loop includes two different types. The Loop Quiet earplugs are noise-reducing, and perfect for focus, sleep, and travel, while the Loop Engage earplugs are noise-filtering, which allows you to stay alert to voices and hear your own without that muffled, “underwater” sound. I find Loop’s sizing options and general shape to be way more comfortable than other earplugs I’ve tried, too.

Visual Timer With Dry Erase Board

$41.95 at Amazon

Visual timers — such as timers that clearly show how much time has elapsed and how much remains with a “pie chart” clock face — can be super helpful on their own for focus and time management if you have ADHD. But imagine having that timer attached to a small whiteboard, where you can also write down what you’re supposed to be doing with that time? It stands on its own, has a little pocket in the back for marker storage, and it’s also magnetic, so if your markers run dry, you can attach your written to-do list directly to the board.

‘How to Keep House While Drowning’ by KC Davis, LPC

$15.65 at Amazon
$24.99Now 37% Off

A basic Google search for phrases like “shame about house ADHD” and “too depressed to clean” will reveal thousands of relevant results, not to mention the abundance of content on platforms like TikTok, all untangling this “secret shame” for many neurodivergent people. As someone who deeply relates, reading KC Davis’ book, How to Keep House While Drowning not only helped me reclaim my messy home, but it also restored my self-esteem. It’s a short read, but the author is someone who truly gets it — not just as a therapist, but as a neurodivergent person and parent. Davis’ lived experience and gentle, knowledgeable approach makes this read such an amazing contribution to our community.

3-Compartment Pill Holder Keychain by Tisur

$21.99 at Amazon
Working memory can be a major challenge for many neurodivergent people — myself included.

 Working memory is important for taking short-term information (like, “I need to take my meds this morning”) and holding onto it long enough to reason through and execute a plan to act on that information (“My med reminder on my phone just went off, so now I’m getting my water and taking my meds, without getting distracted or forgetting where I put things”). Most days, I’m pretty decent at remembering to take my meds, but there are times when I run out the door, or I get in the zone at work just to realize I’ve forgotten them. Having backup doses that I attach to the water bottle that lives on my desk and another that I hook onto my backpack has finally solved that problem.

Tisur makes waterproof containers that hold your meds, and the keychain style has helped ensure I don’t lose my pill holder at the bottom of my bag or desk drawer. This may sound like a boring gift, but your med-forgetting bestie will almost certainly thank you.

Connective Gifts for Stronger Relationships

If one of your goals is to find a gift that deepens your connection with your loved one, I’ve included two great options: The first option is for someone who is more introverted or less social, and the other is for someone who might enjoy deep conversation but needs a little prompting.

You Are Lovable 2025 Daily Affirmation Calendar by Kate Allan

$17.99 at Amazon
If you’re looking for a way to let your loved one know you’re thinking of them, without the pressure of texting or calling you back, this tear-off calendar with daily affirmations is a wonderful, low-pressure option. The illustrations are so precious, the affirmations feel supportive without being trite, and it’s a ritual that your loved one can look forward to each day.

‘Tell Me More’ Conversation Prompts by the Compendium Store

$16.95 at Amazon

As an ADHD yapper who loves deep conversation but is also autistic and not always sure how to invite others to open up, it can feel like a tightrope trying to get to know someone better. I love these conversation prompts — which can be used in many types of relationships, including partners, siblings, friends, and more — because it makes getting to know someone deeply (which can be hard to do!) much lower stakes by turning it into an intentional activity. The structure makes taking turns, skipping questions, and stopping much easier to navigate than an open-ended conversation. Consider getting this for someone you’d like to know better, or to keep on your coffee table for guests.

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